I depends on how you take it. For me it's the same. Some changes are obvious to happen. But nothing can change your love if you are sure about it. Love your companion without expecting love in return. Take it as you goto shopping and buy whatever you like, eat whatever you want and wear whatever you feel good. Same goes with marriage. You marry someone only because you like him /her. It's not about he/she likes you. Right! So accept we are selfish. Whatever we do is for our own sake which makes us happy. Otherwise we will not do it. So no diplomacy in marriage.