Anyone who has ever been or are in a committed relationship or marriage where both people gamble? Or in a relationship with a gambler with a friend, best friend, family related etc... Knowing you are in it together is weird comforting and gives me some sort of undefined explanation.
What does that look like for you? Your experience needs to be heard.
My father is heavy gambler. Not in a casino but in cockpit and card in some group of friends who bet big amount. It is very hard to have a gambler in the family especially if its your father because finances is uncertain. Our financial status is unstable and my parents always fight because of it. Its really hard.
Well my father is also a gambler, but I don't consider him a addicted one. But I'm sure that I inherited it from it. On the contrary, I didn't experience what you have gone through. Yes, we struggle financially but it not because of my father's gambling habits.
So I can say that it really depends, my mother is not a gambler, and I'm sure that she didn't condone my father's gambling habit but it didn't destroy their relationship. Maybe they understand what their priorities was at that time and my father just gamble (horse racing), just to have some fun and he knows his limit that why my mother is OK with that, I guess.