I just don't get why people aren't trying to push good projects more than they are trying to shoot down everything
There are tons of reasons. Some ICOs are scam, a lot of investors have learned their lessons the hard way. Some run after the ICO have finished or successful. Another thing is that, you can actually buy cheaper coins once coin get listed on an exchange, so it is why it is safer because you will know that a project is legit once they list their coin in a decent exchange after the ICO and buying there is sometime cheaper than ICO price.