Please write to pool support using email or pm in discord, the bitcointalk thread is not monitored.

Use the given advice to set min.payout to such value that you will get payout once a day, it is better for your to pay less fees, to control tx-es.
Tx after it is sent to daemon always have zero confirmations, daemon need some time for including tx to block.

There are no pools exists at that moment for stellite that have monitoring the tx-es confirmations.
If there is real problem in lost tx-es we will implement monitoring of confirmations.