to be honest, I have not read everything in this meta. I am a new member who is learning to understand everything in this forum, sir.
thank you for giving me some information about this, i really appreciate you.
There are a lot of members are really doing well receiving merits from others. I suggest you visit their profiles, see their posts history, understand how they communicate, what they do. Most of all don't focus on merit too much. Accept this community as you own community and hang up, socialise with them like you do in your local pub. Always be constructive on your opinions.
Observe Adapt Overcome - this is I am saying now a days.
Merit will be on it's way.