There must be a way. Its my hard earned money I can not afford to lose. Please someone anyone you can private message me if you like just
give me some tips to prevent losing my money as its under dispute now.
If the buyer is from a different country, you can do nearly nothing. If he's from the same country, you can try the police, but that's really hard to prove what has happened.
Paypal won't care about your problem, because of the Friends and family, as it's not a payment sent to a merchant...