Well I've never seen people invent definitions to suit their pervert psych... Also I don't want you to use anything in anyway... Use them as you wish...
The meaning that you are referring to was literally invented by people who wanted to be racist. You are saying that you can't create definitions, and that is contradictory to the existence of the word itself. Easy.
FYI, classic leftist signs - overly privileged, self-entitled, and everything is "racist/misogynist/offensive/whatever".
Example idiot.