Now you seem to be contradicting yourself. At first you said that "either they or I must adjust". Maybe, now you are going to argue that anything you do against your will, you do voluntarily? I always thought it is called coercion. Should I quote the definition of the word you posted earlier or you take a look yourself?
No;
if you want to participate in that society, you must adjust. If you must understand programming to create a program, are the developers of programming languages coercing you into learning them?
Why should I adjust, or rather, why minority should adjust in the first place? If we have to, then it is not much different from what state actually does. Are you still missing my point?