How do we get the heir to connect and have our own safe, if the safe is created in my account ?
When you create your smart vaults, you setup who you want the inheritors to be. You provide all the details of the inheritor.
This can be a secret inheritance that they never know about until you pass or you can sit them down and let them know that you have set them up as an inheritor. Digipule is a peer to peer decentralized inheritance platform that doesn't not require the involvement of 3rd parties or even the inheritor. You can watch this interview here where Norm, CEO of Digipulse answers many questions regarding the Digipulse service and digital inheritance!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i1U7A_HjtDo