In the same sentence you go from pinning responsibility for actions which the US government takes without my consent which are absolutely contrary to my moral beliefs ON ME by using the royal 'we', and then you say that you don't think anyone would equate a US citizen with the US government. News flash... the people doing those terrible things aren't doing them because you consent in any way. Want proof? Withdraw your consent. I'll go out on a limb here and tell you that they...the government...will keep on doing as they wish regardless of what you want. And as for being responsible unless one 'actively resists', whatever the hell that means, you're wrong on that count as well. Unless you are willing to accept some of the blame for every rape, every instance of child abuse, every occurrence of mistreated animals, etc, etc, etc worldwide. After all, you didn't 'actively resist' all of them, right? So that means you must be, at least in part, responsible for them... right?
You're not responsible for those crimes because you don't legitimize them; at the same time, many of us are no longer legitimizing the state. I'm of two minds on this one, now; I believe what I and Kulge said makes more sense to a Fe user; the Fi user naturally holds no relationship with the "we", but is more so connect to the "I", and so the actions of the state aren't connected to the Fi user, while the Fe user is more prone to feel guilt for participating in a society which believes these actions to be justified.
Anyway, ultimately, it's those who are in support of the state and see these deaths as necessary casualties to rid the world of evil (the classic villain archetype...) that are the true underlying vehicles stirring these events in motion.