yeah i got it worked out , forwarding port?? , i have to wallets running full time on 2 different IPs, I thought they were full nodes
"Forwarding port" means that you make your port accessible from outside.
Wallets are usually not full nodes by default (except when you run them as daemon on a linux server), you have to open port 41682.
You will know you have a full node by checking how many connections it has.
If it's <= 8 then it's a normal wallet.
If it's >8 connections then it's a full node.
My full node currently has 32 connections.