Trusting your wife is the worst possible thing you can do. No one should be so stupid to do that.
Who's there to help you? Family members are mostly just as much of a snake ready to bite when you're not looking. No thanks.
Family members can go fuck themselves to be honest.
Save your story to yourselves. Don't applied it
generally to everyone because people have different experience.
Feel sorry for the experienced you
To summarize my story, all my private keys including keys from a dead and shitcoin are all placed in a note (Flash Drive and saved from different storages). That will also include the .dat file of a wallet. All my family members knows that note.
Too much drama for me if until to the end I will kept it as secret just because of my self reason and price. I trust my family and I don't even care if they will spend it although they will not do it.
Well then we have different approach and story on our side. I will not take my statement in general.