Self-Victimization is also sometimes used quite strategically to elicit sympathy from others and gain their assistance in supporting, enabling or hiding abusive behaviors. This is a common tactic used for proxy recruitment.It is very common for perpetrators of abuse to engage in self-victimization for two main reasons:Justification to themselves - as a way of dealing with the cognitive dissonance which results from inconsistencies between the way they treat others and what they believe about themselves.
Justification to others - as a way of escaping harsh judgment or condemnation they may fear from people whom they wish to please or impress.
I believe in this and that makes me hate this kind of activity. They are doing everything just not to be accused of what they have done. It is a form of dishonest that we all should not follow. We should always be with the truth and we should be always accountable on all of the things we do. This is somehow hapening I believe in our government and in normal life in our country. It is sad that this is existing and I think we can't do something to stop it as we could never judge everyone if he/she is realy saying something true.
Self harm is not attention seeking. Allot of the time, no one ever admits to self-harm, thinking it to be a flaw because it is painful to be misunderstood. We have been through allot, and should be taken seriously. We hurt ourselves to deal with something that is happening/happened. We do it to feel pain, and to punish ourselves, or feel in control. Many people that self-harm need help but are afraid to ask for it. Their reluctance is due to the stigma associated with self-harming behavior and mental health.