Hello;
Please I want to discuss a very important topic, it's about the relation between Islam and extremism.
I Don't know why people are still believing that all muslims are terrorists, or extremists, I know that the majority of Muslim countries suffers from lack of democracy, but people and youth in these countries know crypto, use Facebook, Twitter, Telegram, Instagram
etc. listen to music, have boy or girlfriend, etc.
I personally suffer from those haters especially when I travel.
So, Where is the problem? I Don't know?
The problem is simple. Most Muslims are barely Muslim. Why? Because they don't obey the Koran -
http://www.thereligionofpeace.com/quran/023-violence.htm. If they obeyed the Koran, they would be on eternal Jihad, just like ISIS.
So, the problem is this. When a Muslim is close to you, you don't know if he is a peaceful, almost non-Muslim Muslim, or if he is a lying, Jihad Muslim, just waiting for the right time to pounce.
And here is the problem with peaceful, almost non-Muslim Muslims. If a strong, jihad Muslim is in their presence, and he says, "Start fighting, right now, because the Koran says so, and if you don't, I will execute you, according to Koran dictates," what does the peaceful, almost non-Muslim Muslim do? He fights or dies, right?
What does this mean? It means that any peaceful, almost non-Muslim Muslim can be converted into a jihad Muslim, almost on a moment's notice. It's only the peaceful, almost non-Muslim Muslims who don't understand this. The rest of the people understand. So they are scared of Muslims, and protest them right out of the rest of society.

I agree with you that this ideology is very coercive. "You are either with us or against us" type of deal.
The death penalty for leaving Islam makes this religion very similar to mafia, with Allah being the "capo dei capi".