Recently I received a 3 day ban for the merit request in a private message, but I'm a beginner and not too familiar with the rules, I think it's too cruel
Not knowing smth doesn't mean it's ok to do it. Since you are a beginner than start reading the rules. Why do you even need the merit if you don't even know how the forum works? 🤔 Are you left out from doing bounty jobs? 
This man made a really good project, created a cryptocurrency exchange, but for some reason he is a newbie, which I tend to, to the fact that over time on the forum we will get a lot of decent people who build a blockchain, but they will have the ranks of newbies, I want you to pay attention to this, because some people really deserve +1merit, for what they do for blockchain technology
From what I see this person is a bounty manager and this is his job, to publish bounties.. I don't see why someone should give him 1 merit for doing his job. Don't get me wrong, he might be very good at what he does but I wouldn't give him merit points just for copying the website Ann, he doesn't add anything to the ecosystem. The project is done by someone else