Well I think the OP is really going of point. Just take me for example I am still a newbie and I got 3merit already.
The forum has been very transparent and straight forward as to regards smerit rewarding.
The fact that you made this post goes to show how unfocused you are. You can't be a shitty poster and expect to get merited for it.
Well you can go ahead and keep making shitty post and let us keep getting the merit

I understand making a post that is of quality is not as hard as you think just do a research that will be helpful to someone out there. Don't get too obsessed about the whole system just work harder

If a transaction goes unconfirmed for too long, it will eventually disappear from the network. Most clients will remove it from their pool of unconfirmed transactions at some point. And yes, the money should return to your account. When most clients have removed it, you can go ahead and send the transaction again, if you wish and I would suggest to use a higher fee. There's not a precise time when the transaction will disappear from the network, it could be days or up to a week. This is why it's always recommended to set a transaction fee.

Most customers will expel it from their pool of unverified exchanges sooner or later. At the point when most customers have evacuated it, you can simply ahead and send the exchange once more, this time with a higher expense. There's not an exact time when the exchange will vanish from the system, it could be days or up to seven days. This is the reason it's constantly prescribed to set an exchange charge.