The part I bolded I wouldn't argue with and I've probably even said as much about myself in the past.

If the neg on me you're talking about is the one by iluvbitcoins, I'm over that issue and I resolved it from my end (I'm a he, BTW).  One thing I learned early on is that trust ratings and DT status can be fleeting.  I've seen a lot of members go from green to red and a few get booted from DT, including myself the first time I was added to the list.  That's just how it is here, and the more time you spend here the less you'll be surprised when stuff like this happens.