Bruce, stop trying to help people and just be Ben,
could possibly help you and the others greatly.
people with conviction, are often seen with humility.

just be who you are sir.

I'm not trying to be funny or make fun of you at all, it's just the world works with you when you be who you are.
I personally have a pretty dark past, and I have found I shine the brightest when I am simply who I am.
(within the boundaries of society of course)