I don't think Uniqueorn wants BC to have control, he wants the features/big guns rolled out as soon as possible.
He wants the opposite of what you said - more control not less.
Well, we have 2 options:
1. Take current version of Nxt and keep develop it in our own way, without changes added by BCNext
2. Wait for 2nd and 3rd parts of BCNext's plan, read them and decide if we need to follow them. If we don't then see point 1.
In any case we lose nothing. Nxt already has more features than Bitcoin.
Obviously everyone wants NXT to be as great as possible. In it's current incarnation it would not really stand a chance against Ethereum and Emu.
The value of NXT today is reflected in the promised features of NXT, not what it is today, so of course everyone goes with option 2.
But then why is it so wrong to ask for just a little statement from him? Noone is asking for him to be a leader, I don't want a leader, but I want a common goal that the community can unite over and collaborate to make a reality. Something that drives the community forward.
If his reasoning (according to you) is that he don't want to be a leading figure so that's why he jumped off the atlas, well then he has misunderstood the human psyche, by makng himself this elusive enigmatic figure who only speaks esotherically through you, he has made the community dependent on him, because none of us know whats coming next.