Well i guess winning is kind of subjective when it comes to gambling. Some people enjoy it while also knowing when to stop. For me these are the people who really wins. Sometimes it's not just about the money you'll take home but the good feeling it gives you as you play along. So even if you end up losing, as long as they amount is something you can afford to lose, then you're on the positive end.
Knowing when to stop is also a winner for you? if that's the kind of description you've got for winning then it's fine. I understand the point that you are making us understand that it's not all about the money. But let's be real that this is gambling and everything here is about money, winning and no other than winning. That's what every gambler wants and that's the reason why many are getting into gambling. Partially, nobody wins in a way that the house has always the edge.