... This is so hard

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Your username and password are wrong
cudaminer --algo=keccak -d 1 -L 128 -l K1024x32 -i 0 -C 2 -H 2 -o stratum+tcp://max.smalltimeminer.com:3355 -u loginname.WORKERNAME -p passwordforworker
Create your account on smalltime miner, then create a worker. The worker you setup is part of the username and password.
So say your account name is blah and the worker you created was bro, with the syntax above it would be -u blah.bro -p passwordyougavetheworker (not your account password!!)