Separate yourself emotionally from their choices. Second, focus on encouraging good steps. When you see that person doing something right, tell them that they're doing something right. When you see that person making a good move, give them praise. That way they will know and start doing the right things and eventually start to help themselves. Then you can give them opportunities to work on, so they will grow exponentially. By the way, hit me up at Vegascasino if you're a player there, poker or black jack.   Hope my advice helps.