At this point I would love some help and tech support and will if necessary pay for it.
I want to go step by step.. 

first verify I am using the correct Electrum  - what are the steps?

then second what should I do?

I want to securely make sure I have this coin. Once I do that I will feel some relief in fixing the send problem.

I am no up on reading alot about Electrum but I read enough on this board to know there has been quite a bit a fraud with from bad people stealing btc various ways including using fake Electrum or somehow getting access to their legit wallet on a legit Electrum

If the group or those knowledgeable about Electrum tell me what they would do first and go from there.

Thank you very much.