looks like adding real IP and nodes does work, but I have a question>>>>

One of my friends had this concern if we connect nodes that way.

“wouldn't this slow things down?  For example lets say an outer wallet finds a block.  You need to know so your wallet can stop searching for that block and go on to the next problem.  I would think that being connected to more nodes would get you the outer wallets info faster so you know whats going on.   Same with using VPN and tor.  It will take a little longer to get the data from the other nodes etc.  So you wouldn't spend time trying to find old blocks that have already bene solved vs working on the new block that hasn't been solved."