Sorry, you really can't apply human or even mammalian concepts of sexuality to insects.
nature involves everything in nature,
there are also mamals than run states, naked mole rats create feminist states
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Naked_mole-ratand if you look back into pre christian history, you will find even more, gay romans, indians, chinese, africans, and also matriachic ruled india.
human body cells also create a state the cells are gender neutral.
regards
Just a clarification. You can defend sexual behaviors all you want, and there are many valid defenses. But justification by comparison with insects is just plain ridiculous. This is also true for a comparison with different mammalian species.