the problem is NOT SOLVED I just abandon it! I think is a bitcoinQT issue
At this point, i only could suggest :
1. Downgrade to Core 0.18.1
2. Compile Bitcoin Core from source code (perhaps the bug was found and fixed, even though i can't find anything on GitHub issue page)
3. Use another Bitcoin full node client such as
Bitcoin Knotsthank you for your suggestion but now I run samourai Dojo, is working pretty nice so far