It seems like you are pretty ticked at God, or have decided based on your knowledge of who you think He is, you don't believe in Him.
I will briefly comment on a few things. As for God "choosing to send us to hell" that is a matter of your perception. In reality we choose to go there by not accepting Him. The choice is completely ours so I don't understand you saying that He is the one to blame here. Would it be fair of God to let people murder, rape, sexually abuse kids etc. without any judgement for those sins? Of course not! There needs to be punishment for those sins. However, you seem to think that there is a hierarchy of sin and you are "above" the line and God should not punish you. I realize that without God's grace I could be a killer (I have hated someone so much I wanted to kill them) so I know what it is like to have that desire. I then am humbled by that and realize that without God's grace I could do horrible things. So in a sense I am no different than any other sinner, regardless of what kind of sin. All sin keeps us from God. It doesn't really matter what that sin is. We as humans like to categorize them and say that this one is worse than that one, and I do believe that some sins have a greater harm for sure. The Bible even says "It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones." So some sins against children may be punished more. But this is where God's grace comes into play. Jesus brings restoration and healing to those that seek Him sincerely. If someone that was an abusive jerk really was repentant they should feel compelled to do everything they can to apologize and seek forgiveness from the people they harmed. If that person never is repentant then as a Christian I can sleep at night know that God will judge them accordingly, even though it saddens me that the person does not want to change.
I'm not ticked off at god. How can I be ticked off at something that doesn't exist to me? I base my knowledge of the guy in the bible. He's not a pleasant character. In fact I'd go as far as to say he's pure evil and I don't even believe in evil either. If the god of the bible exists I'd have a million questions for him including why he's such a murderous monster and spent so much time creating diseases etc, but I know why he is this way; because people wrote the bible and we created him in our image, not the other way round. And If god did exist I think he'd need our forgiveness as much as we need his.
The choice to believe in him isn't really ours. You can say it is, but it's not as it's made under threat. According to god, it's essentially believe in me or else. Most religious people just give in to the threat after they've been brainwashed by it. Somebody can't love and hate you at the same time. People only believe in him out of pure fear. You can't make people believe in something when it doesn't exist to them. I can't suddenly tell myself that there's a god unless I find any evidence for him. I'd be lying to myself if I said I believe in him or any other gods, and god would know this any way. If god wants to reveal himself to me in any way at all he can do, and then I will believe in him. So far he has not.