1.) This process is going on, but too slowly. And we need a result now and not "later." Therefore, we have to act in existing realities and choose bad (relatively beautiful future) options.
2.) Both options have their own risks. And both options are good in some ways, and bad in something. I need an option without flaws

Unfortunately, it is too early to hope for his appearance.
In terms of anonymity, Monero is perfect, but in terms of adoption ... like all other cryptocurrencies

Adoption takes time man. It took BTC 10 YEARS to be where it is today. Those who have patience in this market comes up with the biggest ROI, that's my thought process anyway.
The need for truly decentralized DEX's will be HUGE as regulation kicks in. Blocknet predicted this years ago.