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Which leads to the next question: Why would anyone choose to NOT opt in, as he would only miss out by not doing so. It´s all a mystery to me

Sorry for my ignorance
It's for tax purposes. If investors want to receive their XYM at launch they'd opt-in before the snapshot. If they want to receive them at a later date which is more tax advantageous, in a new tax year for example, they would opt-in at a later date.