Well, it means you did not take part in such projects, but in general it is normal to return money to investors if you have not collected a soft cap! And about extending the time ... well, no one can give you an answer for sure, everything again depends on the command and the speed of implementation!
On the website there is an information that token distribution will start at 19th of October. It means that token sale will finish before 19th of October. Lets wait to see what will be arter 19th of October.
The projects can conduct several stages of token sale. They can distribute tokens after every stage. The most important thing is not distribution of tokens but the listing of tokens. It iw very important that tokens will be listed on the exchanges.