Ok that explains everything really. When they put someone so obviously nuts (might be genuinely bipolar, in which case I apologize - not my intent to make fun of mental illness) in charge of their development or whatever he's in charge of, that's pretty much what they should have expected. For some reason I thought he fucked off years ago. I guess they don't have anybody else who knows anything about coding and is willing to go along with their dumb schemes.
I have absolutely no doubt that Boki/Tor is probably extremely skilled as a dev, but he also clearly has communication issues that need managing. Without that, he’s a fairly divisive and destructive influence, and dominates conversation to the point where people feel like it’s pointless getting involved.
Their community was obviously dying already, but Boki/Tor’s rants and exit just sped the process up. Now it’s this mess of two different discord’s, no apparent direction in either group, and only a tiny number of people who mostly are minimally engaged anyway.