From my observation, it's not really that hard to get your first merit
I agree. If you know "forums kitchen" or had spend here some time before merit system appeared, then getting one or first merit is not that hard. Getting first merit is more unexpected than complicated. I cant even remember how I got my first, but I'm sure I want searching for it and did nothing on purpose to get merit. They just came suddenly.
I dont remember who said it, but I liked the idea behind that phrase - "the more you want to get merit, the far away it is". Dont rush to get them, be yourself and your merit will find you.