Looking at the documentation a bit more, it seems it is indeed possible to use an address database with the passphrase recovery function:
If you are recovering the passphrase from a BIP39/44 wallet, you can do so either with, or without knowing an address that you are looking for, please see Recovery with an Address Database for more info.
There is a 6 GB address database for bitcoin, last updated January 30th, available from the link on this page:
https://btcrecover.readthedocs.io/en/latest/Creating_and_Using_AddressDB/If OP does not have his own full node with which to generate database, then he could download the premade one from above. If the addresses in this wallet were only used more recently than January 30th, then perhaps he could use your data Loyce to create his own database. He could also reduce the size by limiting to address type or date first used if he remembers these things.