Totally agree，fate just a excuse for us to console ourselves，the reason is lack of control，if you keep gambling without control，might be you could win one or twice，but you would lose finally. This is a normal phenomenon for a gambler.
Gamling just for fun，not for life.
It's about the intent that you have when starting. Do you playing for fun / for getting entertained or to get your daily dose of gambling addiction? Take it as entertainment that pays sometimes for playing, and the full control will be in your hands.
If you take gambling "as an entertainment that pays sometimes for playing" then there won't be anything like self control on the long run becasue we are humans and our wants can't be satisfy. How does gambling addiction grow? Gambling addiction gradually set in through the means of - let me make something small for myself today and tomorrow something bigger till such a gambler become a victim of addiction. So, i will rather said - take gambling as an entertainment to ease out stress -.