any updates?
not yet, but i was told "tomorrow at latest", so i will update tomorrow, hoping this can be moved under the carpets and forgotten and i can get my money tomorrow

Sorry to hear your inconvenience experience in Stake especially it is related to big amount of money. You have done well so far by providing everything they asked for.
Hope you'll get your money asap, I do not think Stake will ruin their reputation for $181k because it should not be a big amount for them to release if there is nothing wrong with your account.