yeah we have hopes mate but we are also ready to lose (as we knew that it is more to happen than winning)
It's good that you know that fact and if you accept that reality it will be good for you in gambling because win and loose are two sides of coin and they go side by side and anything can come on your side with each roll or bet placed.
There is no competition about players because all of us gamblers are competing against the house meaning we have all same vision and target.
The competition among players to top the charts sometimes like say if one player bets $100 and wins some other might try to copy him which might not be beneficial for them is wrong.