Making it and being successful is quite a very relative term for measuring achievements in our life endeavours. It all depends on your personal aspirations and challenges and also how you've conquered those fears that were once seen as stumbling blocks, being successful and finding a place in the society has always been a major fear and concern to almost every young soul especially the undergraduates and the fresh graduates that probably have no support not even from their family members.
Don't be pressured by the benchmarks of success that other people give because not everyone achieves it...
I am grateful to have parents who never impose their will on me, including my life partner. for me being successful is when we are free to choose what we want in life without pressure and worries.