Stake shouldn't have sent you those emails, that is true. But ultimately, you decide what path you will take. Apparently, you aren't strong enough to make that decision yourself. It was just a matter of time before you would slip up. If it wasn't due to an email sent by Stake, it could be because of a billboard you see in your town, an ad on TV, or an offer somewhere online. Seeking professional help is the right way to go about it. That together with the help of those close to you can make a change.

Hope you get those personal issues sorted out and you become a stronger person who knows how to say no. 

Good Luck!