But all to say the whole point of the markets is to take your Money from You.
That's not entirely true. There are people who make a kill from the market and that's either because they pay attention or they're extremely lucky. A lot of people lose money because they think they shouldn't. They want to gain everything at all times and that isn't how the market in real time works. It's not robotic. It works in reaction to the forces of demand and supply. Therefore, anyone who wants to profit by it has to play by the rule.