Sometimes I feel not good after paying a High Fee on ETH, But I want's to know why this?

I feel my emotions with this

When there is panic on market, there are automatically a lot more trades on the Ethereum network (actually in all networks). The more transactions, the higher the fee, because everyone wants their transaction to be made first. The fact that everyone is in a hurry increases the transaction fee. In other words, it depends on us, the users.