There are many trusted escrows here on the forum if you use the search box or magnifying glass above you can find them.
Anyway, I search a list of escrows but last updated January 2021 you can check them from this link below
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https://bitcointalk.org/index.php?topic=276897.0That does not fit what I described. The escrow providers in that list must be involved even when there is no dispute, take custody of the funds, and charge some fee regardless.
I used the word "escrow" for lack of a better word, referring to a third party signer for enforcing arbitration.
Thanks for the link though!