I have specifically highlighted this part of your answer and removed the rest. The remaining part of your message is the reason I will abstain from expressing my opinion about your reply. I will only have two things to comment. The way I see it is, the difference between what Putin has done and what Ukraine and their supportive countries have done is that one of them does things directly with immediately felt effects while the other seems to do the same things in a more silent, indirect, suppressive manner that makes them look innocent and like a savior to the rest of the world.
I'm not aware of Ukrainian government (even silently or whatever) invading Russia, bombing their civilians, arresting their own citizens for protesting, banning all independent media, etc, so no, that's not where the main differences are.
It is literally Russia being condemned for everything they do but when the United States or any European country does it, it is cheered and supported. Is this really Whataboutism?
It is. Two wrongs don't make a right. If you can't make a coherent argument why some typically bad thing (like a military invasion) is actually good without resorting to "but others do it too", then said thing is probably not good.
Hyperbole doesn't help either. Russia
literally condemned for
everything it does? No. Not Russia, Putin, and not for everything, just the bad things he does (like a military invasion), although being a totalitarian dickhead he tends to do a lot of bad things.