and for the merit that I gave to my friend because he asked, if you had a friend what would you do if he asked for it.
Merit is not given out upon request to a friend or anyone. Merit is earned as a reward from any member who finds your post of good quality. In your case, you can also send merit to any member whom you find their post of good quality and decency. Asking for merit in the forum is a violation of the merit system.