And I don't know about you, but I mostly have good relations with those I transact with.
Sure, but you also have to consider entities such as Muun wallet or Bitrefill which have tens or even hundreds of thousands of users. Impossible for them to build a relationship with each one. (I named these two specifically since they were involved in the above linked discussions on GitHub and the mailing list.)
Could you setup multiple full nodes in one machine without anybody knowing one person is running all?
Sure, but it wouldn't really achieve much if almost every other node continues to run opt in RBF and rejects all the replacement transactions you broadcast. Or more to the point, unless major miners update their nodes to start accepting full RBF replacements.
I don't see the big deal with Bitrefill. I use them on almost a daily basis now that they have bill payments too. Waiting for a confirm for a GC is not a big deal, and payments seem to go out overnight anyway.
RBF / no RBF I don't see why they would be caring that much either way anyway. Have to go read what they have said.
I understand what they are trying to do and why they are trying to do it, I just think as do some others that we would be better off drawing a line in the sand and saying as of THIS DATE (or block number) it is happening. That one last warning so to speak.
-Dave