@Bob,
For anything it may still be worth, I want to publicly apologize for being incredibly insensitive towards you years ago. I was emotional and reacted with some comments I deeply regret.  I'd like you to know that I'm sorry to have judged and labeled you. I used sensitive information you confided in us and weaponized it in my haste.  I see how hurtful this was. It still hangs on me and I think about it more often than I'd like to admit.  Rather than continue to personally carry this into the future I'd much prefer owning it and working towards a sense of peace.
You are valuable and have mattered to all of us here. Wishing you and Rick all the best into the future!

Sincerely,
Icy