Marriage is something you need to know before you get to it and you need to understand that your life will never be the same when you will marry the girl you love because when that happens, you gonna do everything to make her happy and comfortable. You just need to consider looking for the right spouse before thinking about marriage and you need to learn what are the criteria to become the right wife for your children. Because if you marry randomly without taking any considerations to do the tips above, then you are risking your marriage and your children's future because you might marry the wrong Man or Woman who will not care about you or your children or maybe they are abusive and you only found that out when you already married.
you're right ,marriage isn't just a mare play like other primary relationships ,its a big step people should take ,but some don't care , expectially women ,some are just too desperate to get married,and prayers should be involved too, because it's till death do us appart they always say ,it's a very serious decision to take