Ofcourse the shiny/attractive things could help relieve some of the pains people pass through in life. It's more like visiting a beach, nature or other really attractive places to relax and be refreshed. But one needs to be careful in order not to over indulge this things to the extent of overspending on them (or getting too attached to them) and not getting sufficient benefits from the amount that goes into them. And it's important to avoid the artificial alternatives/replica as they are fake and their effect in human body is most times fake/placebos.

In regards to how I handle or create my own experiences after unpleasant situations, it mainly deep understanding of what went wrong, couple with empathy/love. For deliberate issues, I just leave that to GOD of justice to fulfil the "reap what you sow" law. .. as reward for deliberately causing problem is certain