I'm on your side, but to play the Devil's Advocate, those "better services" are like sitting ducks. Sooner or later a S.W.A.T. team is telling them that their front door is about to break down. It's probably why services like WasabiWallet and some exchanges have accepted the trade-off to act in-accordance to government demands.
How do you propose law enforcement take down JoinMarket, which is software which is run on thousands and thousands of individual computers around the world, via Tor, and has no central coordinator? How do you propose they take down Bisq, which has the same set up?
The truly decentralized services are resistant to censorship in exactly the same way bitcoin itself is. A government could shutdown a centralized exchange or Wasabi's centralized coordinator, but they can't shutdown very Bisq trader or every JoinMarket user, just as they can't shutdown every bitcoin node.