it is not good to be scammer. be smart and decent guy just like the famous old geezers, be like the oracle of the omaha, down to the earth, spend money on value investing, study hard and work hard to earn a living, also the full recipe of perfect life, go to school get good grade, get a good paying job with benefit, get married to a beautiful wife, buy house, get many little kids and work hard for retirement. life is great and You are likely driving this discussion into another dimension and I think you need to have some clear part for the discussion my above comment was based on how I understood your post and at the same time try so hard to fit into the discussion,  but you overly mentioning gender and male excessively which is not something I will like to make further comment about that term used since I am against gender differentiation in my discussion