I blame myself a lot for spending so much and being irresponsible with money,
This is the first point you need to understand and now that you have identified it, you can now start planning how to make yourself better with money. You can't keep giving yourself excuse that you are not the only one not good with spending money because it is a personal decision and not group. Train yourself on how to manage your income.
but in your opinion, do you think that the soceity is contributing to the high and many expenses making money not to stay or is it just a bad habit I have?
No I don't think the society contribute to high level of expenses that people incur. The economic hardship is rather making people to adjust. Spending irrational is the reason people are having bills hanging their neck.